How I Conquered sex/porn addiction using mindfulness.

“Hmm I wonder what making love to her would be like?” “No I shouldn’t be having those thoughts” “But she was beautiful I can only imagine” “No stop it be present” “You stop it”

Do you ever have some conflicting thoughts like these? Naturally as us Men mature and grow our hormones start to grow stronger influencing our thoughts more and more. Plus if you went to my middle school growing up it seemed that the internet opened up too many doors for young curious kids. Porn became a secret taboo topic that was only talked about in small social groups. Yet it is easy to become psychologically addicted to it because we associate the action to the pleasure. But we all know that guilty feeling that overcomes us after and our perception of woman starts to change. Our thoughts start to focus more and more on sex and attraction then we would like. I suffered from a sex addiction and recently overcame it. I had sex when I was 13, was exposed to porn at a young age and then was involved in a very sexual relationship for about 5 years. So naturally my mind and its desires became very strong. I have been blessed to be introduced to mindfulness practice and used it as a way to learn how to channel the energy in different directions. Following the Energy formula (If you haven’t read about click the link) we can learn how to shift our vibration by changing our attention to these thoughts. Here’s how.

  1. BECOMING AWARE OF YOUR THOUGHTS

Become aware of the fact that thoughts = emotions = actions = outcome so we can start to see how this addiction even started. It usually starts at a young age when we begin to have thoughts about sex and curiosities. This then leads us to emotions of a need for love which influences us to actions like masturbation and porn to release. With the ultimate outcome of guilty release and repeating the viscious cycle over. The more repetition the stronger the habit so depending on how often this has been going will depict how much time you need to overcome it. So take this time to ponder the question “How many times do you think about sex per day? Per hour? Per minute?”

  1. BECOME MINDFULL OF WHAT IS INFLUENCING YOUR THOUGHTS

Now become aware of what is influencing those thoughts around sex. If you grew up in mainstream society then you can resonate that most of the music we listen to associates women to sex. Mostly in a way where we become addicted to pleasure and action opposed to connection and conscious response. Most of the movies or television has messages of the same idea. Most of our friends and social groups made it a topic where we just fantasise about girls and go scouting for them like a game. All of these things influenced me and my addiction and it difficult for me to look at sex consciously. Rememebr your association creates your vibration so I encourage right now to think about the type of things you are involving yourself in RIGHT NOW that is influencing your thoughts and perception about sex. Think about the type of music, shows, movies, and conversations you are having.

  1. SHIFT WHAT YOU ARE FEEDING YOUR THOUGHTS

Most hip/hop and rap music will feed you thoughts about money, sex and drugs and make it seem like it is what you want which will influence your thoughts and attitudes. Propaganda in television and social media will feed you the same messages. Their goal is to get you addicted because it benefits them more having individuals willing to spend money on porn, strip clubs, going out to night clubs, alcohol, etc. But if you are here you are already conscious of that. So I encourage you to evaluate what you are exposing yourself to and how often. From here make a conscious decision to start shifting it. If you are listening to main stream media your thoughts will be highly influences and if you are not aware of mindfulness practice or how to become a witness to thoughts your formula can look like this

500 (thoughts about sex) x 500(Focused attention on those thoughts = 250,000 (energy output on sex)

At this rate of conversation you are going to be one horny individual at a low vibration that is mostly attuned to a propaganda way of thinking.

So start to shift to shift where you are applying this energy.

I encourage you to listen to more 432hz binaural beats, watch more conscious things like actualized.org or Infinite waters, start a daily gym routine, begin to meditate daily. This will start moving around the energy from those hormones in different directions so you still get that release just in a different way.

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  1. BECOME MORE CONSCIOUSS

Now I am not telling you to devote yourself to celibacy of course not. But slowly start to become more conscious of how you are viewing woman and where your thought go when you are masturbating. Are you just focused on the body and just what you have seen in porn? Or are you becoming more conscious of the spiritual, of the intimacy, of the passion that is involved in love making? This can dramatically influence your energy and the feeling you get after release. If you are more curious I recommend diving into Tantra which is a Hindu translation of spiritual love making. Also become more conscious of what you are putting IN your body not just what you are releasing OUT of it. Feeding your body some delicious organic blueberries and kale can help you feel a lot more energized and focused. Check out this 5 MUST TAKE supplements for better sex and energy. Even if you aren’t having sex just having a healthy flow of sexual energies and following the steps above to become conscious of how you are using them can make a huge difference and help you overcome your unconscious porn watching masturbating at 2am when everyone is asleep addiction.

  1. TAKE IT SLOW

Like anything else this requires time. It took me a few years to reverse my conditioning and framework I had around sex. Honestly it wasn’t until I moved on from a 5 year relationship where the pain and perspective really gave be a deep respective and attitude shift towards women and sex. It might not take something as dramatic as that for you or maybe it will. Regardless be easy on yourself. If you find yourself watching porn again or about to open up that private tab just breath and ask yourself “Is this really what I want?” and let that just run through your mind. Even so forgiveness is a huge key. Be easy on yourself I mean you are only human. Avoid beating yourself up or criticizing yourself. Know that you are learning and healing and it takes time and involves a process. Remember you are not alone and the Collective is always here to help. If you are ever having a super difficult time follow this formula;

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This will pull you into the present moment away from thoughts. From here take action. Go to the gym. Read. Journal.

Here are some extra steps you can take

  • Get rid of all temptation like magazine’s and posters
  • Reach out to a community / Find similar people
  • Have an accoutnabiloty partner
  • Avoid being online in private

If you have further questions or want more personal help with this join the THERIZECOLLECTIVE online community and check out THERIZENACADEMY for online courses. Much love, gratitude. Respect and appreciation. Keep flowing and stay In tune. I believe In you.

-RIZEN

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