Why we are how we are. The secret of yourself

Meditation is so much more powerful then I could have ever anticipated. So many of my students fault to meditate because there like “I just can’t meditate” or “I don’t have enough time” The funny thing is most of us, if not all of us, know we SHOULD be meditating but why aren’t we doing so? After watching this video from Impact Theory featuring Dr. Joe Dispenza I realized that there was no way I was going to skip another day of meditating and maybe after reading this and watching the video you’ll change your habits as well.

In a nutshell the video touches on several important theories but the ones I found profound was the power of habits and the idea of the self. Joe describes a habit as, “a redundant set of automatic unconscious thoughts behaviors, and emotions that are acquired through repetition.” So when we look at our daily lives we can see what we tend to do frequently whether that is waking up and drinking your morning tea, going to the bathroom, or checking social media these constants have become habits. But what we have to start to notice is the habits of our mind, when we wake up what is the first thing we are thinking about? What kind of emotions are we waking up to? Most of us wake up already thinking about the past and reliving those same emotions and as Joe states, “emotions are the end product of past experiences.” How do we do this? Most of us by waking up and checking social media, going to the bathroom, eating breakfast then following the same routine and seeing the same people and getting the same daily emotional triggers.


Why Is this like crazy important? Because the familiar past will soon be the predictable future! So if you keep reliving those same emotional barriers you will not be able to grow or develop a future that you desire. You will be unconsciously living in the past. Our routine becomes our program and over time that leaks into the subconscious mind. Joe mentions that, “95% of who we are by the time we are 35 is a memorized set of behavior, emotional reactions, hardwired attitudes beliefs and perspectives.” If we are not conscious of our habits then we will fall as slaves to the program that we have created in our minds forever stuck in a never endling loop of constant stress and emotional triggers. Pretty crazy right? This is why this information is so crucial right now as I speak to my millennials, our minds are not fully programed yet so if we begin to develop healthy habits and build a conscious mind NOW then our lives will become a reflection of that. Dr. Dispenza noted, “The best way to predict your future is to create it, not from the known but from the unknown. What thoughts do you want to fire and wire in your brain? What behaviors do you want to demonstrate in one day? The active rehearsing, then mentally closing your eyes and rehearsing the action.”

So how do we do this? Well this is where I again mention the power of meditation and how it can help you rewire your brain. We have to first understand the way our mind works and why we are acting the way we do. We all have some type of trauma in our lives that have defined us in some way or form and depending on how strong that experience was can determine the amount of attention you are giving it. “The moment the brain puts all the attention on the cause, it is a snap shot called a memory.” Maybe you where cheated on recently and each day you think of that experience you get a mental image in your mind along with emotional triggers of sadness, depression, or anger. I usually get caught up in memories of moments where I said something I shouldn’t have, had an argument with someone I cared about, or had someone throw some shade my way. These memories usually send a mental image into my mind and I get those same emotional reactions from the first moment I experienced it. This would really set me back and I had a really hard time controlling these thoughts. So why is this so important?


Well looking at the bigger picture, “long term memories are created from highly emotional experiences”; so we become chemically bound to those experiences of emotion. What does this mean? When we keep having these memories pop up we keep getting those same emotions and if we keep that for several days it then becomes a mood. If we keep those same emotional reactions for months it becomes a temperament and if we keep the same emotional reaction for years it then becomes a personality trait. Whoa I know this could explain why we can’t get over the death of Neji in Naruto Shippuden because we keep replaying over that same emotional reaction of disbelief and sorrow. I know in my childhood people would tell me and even I would tell myself, “that is just how I am.” I’m just a shy person, I’m just an easily irritated person, or I’m just a sad person. This was clearly an illusion and when you look at your life ask yourself what emotional reactions have you been holding onto? Maybe you continuously are insecure about yourself, replay sad moments in your life, or can’t get over why your partner isn’t giving you the love you desire. Identifying these are going to be crucial and then learning how to let those thoughts come and go is where true change is going to occur and is where meditation comes into play.

Okay here is the final load of some trippy stuff alright but I promise you this is the information you need to make everlasting change and get over your anxiety, depression, stress, and more. You could be asking, “well I have tried meditation but it just doesn’t work for me, the same thoughts keep coming back and I can’t clear them.” Great question Tristan, well I know in my life this has occurred several times from arguments with my girlfriend and words I couldn’t let go of to feelings of anxiety and fear I kept coming back to. So why is this? Well the tricky thing is our body is the unconscious mind and over time we actually get used to those feelings of anxiety, shame, pity, anger, fear, and worry and becomes a state of homeostasis for ourselves. We become comfortable with those feelings so when we dive into the unknown which would be the opposite feelings like happiness, acceptance, love, courage, and peace our body actually freaks out and wants to go back to what is familiar which is those feelings we want to get rid of. Our thoughts tell us to go back to our normal reaction of blaming our parents for putting cheese in our sandwich when they know we are vegan or ignoring your girlfriend and blaming her for your problems instead of talking it out with her (I know I got a lot of problems ok) in which is going to lead us down the same emotional reactions and bad vibes. Sucks I know but the good news over time we can rewire our brains by understanding this model;

Thoughts = emotions = actions = results

So how do we get better results? By developing better thoughts. If our thoughts can literally make us sick then they can also heal us and make us much healthier! Our thoughts should no longer be a record of past experiences constantly repeating the things that have happened to us (I know people like this) but instead be developed as road maps to a bright future. Meditation will help you with that and it takes time and practice. Do not give up after a few days, weeks, or even months but continue the process over years. The bigger the change the more time it will take. The deeper the trauma the more meditation we will need. We must teach our body type of experiences we want to feel and we will start to feel those things. Avoid searching for things outside of yourself to help you but instead look within you. The moment we start loving ourselves and the life that we are living will be the same moment we start attracting more abundance and love into our lives (law of attraction) The answer is inside of all of us, we all have our own key to personal happiness and inner peace. You can either live as a victim or a creator of your world. Start meditation fam

Hope this helps.

Peace and love always.

I love you all.





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Happiness is not so much in having but in sharing. We make a living but what we get but we make a life but what we give. We can always give love. Hold space. Share our unique human experience. As a coach entrepreneur I am on a mission to help align, raise and keep my Millennial generation RIZEN with love, unity and a vision for peace. #STAYRIZEN

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